Sex Is The Bonding Agent That God Designed For Marriage!

I received an e-mail from one of my subscriber’s yesterday and this is what he said.:

“Hi David, thank you so much for sharing valuable information and thoughts to us. I always wait eagerly to receive a notification from you. Though I don’t always comment, but I have made a point to share the links to several of my friends and family members and I’m sure you’ve notice already based on the number of visitors in your blog. I’ve got a burning question and I would really like to hear your advice and please fill free to share in your blog, I will be following to get what others are also suggesting. 

I have a wife and we have been married now for six years. However, for the last two years, my wife has deprived me of sex. However much I try, she always gives excuses on how she is tired, not feeling well, and many other excuses. I have tried to spice up my marriage by taking her for dinner dates, picnics, but all these is not working. I need your advice.”

My Take:

Firstly, it is important to understand that sexual intimacy is a vital aspect of a healthy marriage relationship. The Bible acknowledges the importance of sexual intimacy within marriage and encourages husbands and wives to fulfil each other’s sexual needs. Here are a few pieces of advice that may be helpful:

1. Communicate openly and honestly: The first step is to talk to your wife about how you feel. Be open and honest about your desires and needs, while also being respectful of her feelings and concerns. Use “I” statements, such as “I feel” and “I need,” rather than blaming or accusing language.
2. Seek professional help: If communication does not resolve the issue, consider seeking professional help from a counsellor or therapist. A Christian counsellor can help you and your wife work through any underlying issues that may be contributing to the sexual deprivation in your marriage.
3. Pray together: Praying together as a couple can help you both connect on a spiritual level and seek God’s guidance and wisdom. Ask God to help you both understand and meet each other’s needs.
4. Focus on intimacy, not just sex: While sexual intimacy is important in marriage, it is not the only form of intimacy. Focus on building emotional, intellectual, and spiritual intimacy with your wife as well. This can help strengthen your bond and may lead to a more fulfilling sexual relationship.
5. Remember biblical principles: As a Christian, it’s important to remember biblical principles regarding sex and marriage. Sex is designed to be a gift and expression of love between husband and wife (1 Corinthians 7:3-5), and both partners should strive to meet each other’s needs (Ephesians 5:28-29).

Sex is the bonding agent that God designed, to bind a man and a woman together for life. That’s why separating from a sexual partner is painful.

Overall, it’s important to approach the issue with love, patience, and understanding. Seek God’s guidance and remember that with effort, prayer, and professional help, sexual deprivation in marriage can be resolved. Kindly share your comments, my friend will be following in the comment section.